No one replaces a mother when she is absent from her home as a result of her work, but sometimes the circumstances push us to choose who does some of her tasks, sometimes we face some difficulties in choosing the right person who plays this role, especially since children in their early years need specific behaviors and special education.
With the mother busy and increasing her daily burdens between home and work, she is forced to seek the assistance of another person, and she often uses the grandmother of the children, but in the case of distance or the inability of the healthy grandmother, the mother will only find one way, which is the use of a nanny specialized in the field of child care.
And in order not to one day regret choosing the nanny and ensuring the behavior of your children, you must choose it with certain specifications because it is considered an alternative mother in the absence of you from the house .. Do not rush to choose, this task is not easy at all.
And to make the task easier, Emmanuel Favre Rei, a specialist in education and psychology, gives you some advice that may help you make a good choice.
In the beginning, Emmanuel indicates that in the beginning, you must have the time to search for what you want, so hurry to choose the first wrong introductions in how to search, and you should avoid searching online, but it is always better to choose through one of the acquaintances, relatives or agencies of nanny labor provided Ensure the good reputation of the agency that you will deal with, and must also fully verify the authenticity of the papers submitted to you by the agency or governess, such as experience certificates, proof of identity, work permit, and residence papers for those from outside
The first interview
Because meeting a nanny for the first time is important, there are basics that parents should take care of.
Emanuel says: “Before receiving any nanny, there is a special importance for the father and mother sitting together, agreeing on what must be found in this nanny in question, and setting a clear perception about it, and about the basic conditions that must be met, as these perceptions differ from one family to another, In fact, there is no integrated picture of the model nanny, as each family has special requirements. Also, there is a need for parents to be present in the first interview with female applicants for the job, as the responsibility is shared in vision and choice. ”
Emmanuel adds: “After reviewing the papers and taking pictures of them to verify their authenticity, it is preferable to talk extensively on previous experiences and the reasons for leaving the job, preferably of course the nanny with previous experience in the treatment and raising of youngsters, and you should ask some questions that may be an indication of choice such as: Why Chose this career? What are the circumstances that prompted her to choose? How do you see from her point of view the ideal day for a child? And what do you know about the integrated diet for children? What are the most important psychological and biological needs of the young?
Emmanuel stressed the need to focus on securing the young and make sure the nanny is able to act in order to protect him, especially if the child begins his first steps in learning to walk, and how to act if any emergency or problem occurs in the home that may cause him harm, and parents should focus on how and style Her answer, and not just to the answers, is whether she is a frowning, smiling, quiet, nervous, and nervous character trying to control herself while talking, tense, or self-confident ... and so on.
On the influence of the nanny on the child, Emmanuel says to each mother, “You are facing a great difficulty. And in all cases, you have to choose the one closest to your perception, as it is difficult to find a complete relationship between your perception and the educator that you will choose.
The characteristics of the governess
And on the characteristics that must be available in the nanny of the child, they differ according to the age stage, and this was confirmed by the specialist, Noura Al-Laihan, saying: “The nature of the nanny's work with the child differs from any stage, and this requires the availability of certain physical characteristics in the nanny of the child, the most important of them, to enjoy physical fitness as The nature of her work requires effort, and she does not suffer from diseases that may hinder her from performing her work in the required manner, and it is necessary that she be healthy and free from impairments that can affect her dealing with the child, and to develop the child's taste she must be concerned with her appearance and clothes, and be dynamic and active even Don't feel tired Stress with all the work you do with the child. "
Al-Luaihan adds, “The moral characteristics of a nanny are very important because they represent the ideal model or good example. The way it deals with the child must be based on kindness, acceptance, tolerance and mercy, in order to help the child to develop good moral characteristics and positive aspects.”
Regarding mental attributes, logos indicate that: the governess must have a degree of intelligence and an apparent speed and improve the method of foreplay and guiding children in the event of error, and must have a cultural background to understand the basic concepts in science, mathematics, language and arts, while being careful to note their words and words must To be healthy, so that the child does not imitate the incorrect tone.
As for social behavior and psychological attributes, they also bear a lot of importance. The nanny must have the ability to control her emotions, be loving the child and have the desire to work with him and bear his burdens patiently, in addition to her desire to teach him, and she has a spirit of fun, humor and flexibility.
Specialist Emmanuel Pfaffer Ree advised that after the nanny’s success in testing the mother, he created a relationship of respect between the young woman and his nanny, as she is the person who implements the mother’s vision towards raising the youngster. Then choose at least three, through which they choose the best in a calm and clear mind.